A Healing Letter to Self (from an Adult Child of an Alcoholic Parent)

A Healing Letter to Self (from an Adult Child of an Alcoholic Parent)

If you grew up with an alcoholic parent, writing a letter to yourself can be surprisingly healing. If you are on a journey for mental health, you may find yourself becoming aware of childhood thoughts and emotions you thought you had outgrown. Journaling and letter writing offer safe ways to process difficult experiences, along with therapy. You may have heard about re-parenting yourself for personal growth. A letter to yourself (that you don’t mail) is one way to carry this out. Writing That Heals Studies show writing can help people heal. It helps us form new perceptions we can use to strengthen our mental health. John F Evans, EdD calls writing yourself a letter “transactional writing” because it has aRead more about A Healing Letter to Self (from an Adult Child of an Alcoholic Parent)[…]

How to Make Your Relationship Strong and Lasting: Being Accessible, Responsive and Engaged

How to Make Your Relationship Strong and Lasting: Being Accessible, Responsive and Engaged

Partners need to know they matter to each other. They need to feel safe, seen and cared about, in big moments and small ones. When partners fight, the latest issue may be only half the problem. If you keep fighting over the same things – or nothing at all – you may be fighting for connection. Do you feel heard? Do you feel supported? You may be upset about the matter at hand. And maybe you’re also feeling unimportant. Beneath the anger, one partner likely feels hurt and injured. Probably even rejected. Feeling Disconnected? “Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection,” says relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson. Couples are desperate to break through feeling abandoned, invisible and alone. WhatRead more about How to Make Your Relationship Strong and Lasting: Being Accessible, Responsive and Engaged[…]

The Secret to Lasting Love and a Better Sex Life

The Secret to Lasting Love and a Better Sex Life

Is sex just a trick of body chemistry? Is it nature’s way of helping make sure we reproduce? Is sexual pleasure just a passing phase for most couples? Or is the joy of sex somehow linked to the secrets of lasting love? “The first and foremost instinct of humans is neither sex nor aggression. It is to connect.” That’s how relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson explains the basis for love, including a happy, lasting sex life. Do you think that sex is mostly nature’s way of ensuring people reproduce? Do we only imagine that we are in love, until the hormones wear off? Or is the desire to find somebody to care for (and who cares back) a need toRead more about The Secret to Lasting Love and a Better Sex Life[…]

The Connection Between Mood and Food

The Connection Between Mood and Food

Planes, trains, and automobiles all need a specific type of fuel to operate. If you put the wrong type of fuel into any of these vehicles, they’d malfunction—if they could move at all. Your body — including your brain — is similar: it needs the right kind of fuel to function well. Here’s what you need to know about the food mood connection. The Right Brain Fuel Have you ever eaten a huge lunch only to return to work tired, cranky, and completely unable to focus? Or, perhaps you have a crappy day because of a breakup, a fight with a loved one, or a nonstop demanding boss. You grab your favorite takeout and a dessert on the way homeRead more about The Connection Between Mood and Food[…]

How to Recognize 3 Subtle Forms of Emotional Abuse In a Relationship

How to Recognize 3 Subtle Forms of Emotional Abuse In a Relationship

Many people feel desperately lonely in their marriage or relationship. Not knowing what’s wrong or how to fix your relationship problems can be devastating. You may feel like you’re putting everything you’ve got into trying to understand your partner. You try over and over to tell your partner what you need. And still you’re getting nowhere. Do you feel you have to limit your behavior or stuff your feelings to be in a relationship? These can be signs of emotional abuse. Some forms of emotional abuse and neglect are so subtle, you may not notice it or recognize it’s happening. I want to help more people see how emotional abuse, neglect or harm often shows up in relationships, and whatRead more about How to Recognize 3 Subtle Forms of Emotional Abuse In a Relationship[…]

Signs You’re in a Safe vs Unsafe Relationship

Signs You’re in a Safe vs Unsafe Relationship

When a relationship starts, you’re both having fun, and you may feel you’re in a safe relationship and everything is fine. But it’s not always easy to tell from the start whether you’re in a safe relationship, or one that’s headed for trouble. As time goes on, you may start to wonder what kind of relationship you have. Both healthy and unhealthy relationships usually start out with normal-looking behavior. That’s why we want to highlight some of the most important differences between a safe and unsafe relationship. What does it mean to be safe emotionally, physically and sexually, with your loved one? If you’re in a safe relationship, it feels good most of the time. While you may not always agree,Read more about Signs You’re in a Safe vs Unsafe Relationship[…]

Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery

Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery

Healing Shame is Part of the Recovery Journey Unlovable. Undeserving. Stupid. Ugly. A screw-up. This is the voice of toxic shame. Just because something inside talks this way, you don’t have to believe it. Toxic shame can be an intense experience with addiction recovery. And it’s painful. You know that using or drinking was a terrible mistake. Maybe you were addicted to gambling, sex, food, work, street drugs or porn. You hurt yourself, your family and your friends. And you were hurting too. But today, pain is no longer an excuse to use or beat yourself up. Now it’s time for recovery. Pain is human. Feeling pain means it’s time to listen to what you need to heal toxic shame.Read more about Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery[…]

Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond

Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond

Should you worry if you can’t say, “I love you” to someone who matters in your life? You may wish you could just set yourself free, throw fear out the window and say it out loud. You might wonder if there’s something wrong with you if you can’t spark a moment of tenderness by gently murmuring, “I love you” when you feel it. There is nothing wrong with you. Love is scary. Learning to love well is a huge challenge. Yes, it’s also one of life’s biggest rewards. You need loving connection to be healthy, feel alive and to thrive. We all do. We are all made to connect, seek friendship and love. But it doesn’t come on demand byRead more about Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond[…]

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)

The World Health organization shares 10 important facts about mental health. This list identifies top mental health issues for people around the world. We compared these 10 mental health facts to similar facts at home. Do they match our concerns? We looked at facts about the extent of mental illness in Part 1. Here we look at facts about barriers to better mental health care. We share what we see about these barriers closer to home, and how to challenge them. Fact 6: Stigma and discrimination are major barriers to mental health care WHO: Stigma and discrimination against patients and families prevent people from seeking mental health care. US: People feel ashamed and afraid to admit difficulties with mental illness.Read more about 10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)[…]

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)

Mental health is so important to the World Health Organization (WHO), they’ve identified 10 facts about mental health they want everyone to know. WHO’s snapshot of mental health issues reflects concerns for people around the world. We compared these 10 mental health facts to similar facts at home. How well do they describe us? Our related 10 mental health concerns may shock you. We want them to inspire you to make good mental health a priority for yourself and your loved ones. Here are WHO’s mental health facts 1 through 5 and how they relate to the issues we see: Fact 1: Mental disorders are prevalent in children and youth  WHO: Around 20% of the world’s children and adolescents have mental disordersRead more about 10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)[…]